These, using my watermelon or blackberry wine! OMG!



The future of our innocent?


Police said around 2:30 Friday morning, they found the Melissa Tomesh in her truck, facing the wrong way on the road.
“A concerned citizen called us this morning and noticed a vehicle in the roadway, (and) the driver passed out,” Roswell police officer Lisa Holland said.
Police said Tomesh’s truck was still running and she was sleeping in the driver’s seat and breastfeeding her child at the same time.

“When the officers arrived they had to wake up the driver and after talking to her, they realized she was under the influence of something, possible drugs, or a combination of different medications,” Holland said

This is so sick!!! Who does this!?! One of my best friends knows the other side of the family in this case. They have been trying to get custody of this poor child. I know this is a horrible situation but at the sametime, thank God. This child will be able to get out of this environment now. She will not have to wait for the judicial “process”. I know they are backed up and there are so few that care enough for what they get paid but it is how our country works. We (government) spend so much money on people that have never paid taxes but they can let a 3 year old American child suffer this type of abuse? Yes,  this is what she was caught doing but you know it is a situation that is beyond what we can think of for this poor innocent child. Please pray for this child and her family to get through this terrible time. In the end it will be good for them all but they still have a long path to travel.


Ahh, my life sort of!

The years have gone by and I realize that I pretty much suck at blogging now! LOL! Back in the day I used to write a post or multiple a day! I guess I finally got a life! Well, I got married again and so much was going on! I’m hoping to get back into blogging more. We’ll see what happens.

My life has changed so much! I don’t work any more. My stress level is way down so I don’t suffer from the horrible flares as much. Thank God!

I suffer from sever clinical depression and have had some major up and downs with it. A post for another day…

My daughter is about to be 20 and my son just turned 17! Where have the years gone?

My kitchen remodel is almost done!!! I’m sooooo close! I have to paint the doors on the bottom cabinets and put the flooring down in the pantry and it will be done! I am so excited!

My craft room is almost done also! Once the kitchen is done I plan on finishing it. I have one more cabinet to put together and my sewing tables to make! Again, soooo close!

Speaking of crafts… I have attacked everything to comes along craft wise. Well, ones that I want to try. I have gotten brave and if I like something I attempt to make it! I’m pretty proud of myself! I never thought of myself as being crafty.

Building the deck is next and organizing the garage!

I have found an amazing friend! I’m so happy to have met her! We are so much alike it is scary!

Ummm, I guess I’m done for now. LOL! I’m having trouble remembering my life. LOL! It’s OK, it comes and goes!

Have a great night!




Grilled Buffalo Wings!!!

Yes, here it is. THE recipe! I don’t care who you are or what you are… You will love these wings!!! My darling husband makes these when we have get togethers. Everyone loves them! You will not go wrong if you makes these! They are requested over and over again when we invite people over. Yes, they are that freaking good!!! He usually marinates these but it depends on how much time we have. If you need some not so hot just dip those less. It’s all up to you!

“This is a great recipe for grilled chicken wings. They are much better than fried!”


  • 3 pounds chicken wings, separated at joints, tips discarded
  • 1 cup Louisiana-style hot sauce
  • 1 (12 fluid ounce) can or bottle cola-flavored carbonated beverage
  • 1/4 teaspoon cayenne pepper, or to taste
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper, or to taste
  • 1 tablespoon soy sauce


  1. Preheat a grill to medium heat.
  2. In a large pot, mix together the hot sauce, cola, cayenne pepper, black pepper and soy sauce. Add the wings to the sauce – frozen is okay. Place the pot to one side of the grill, so the sauce comes to a simmer.
  3. Use tongs to fish wings out of the sauce, and place them on the grill for 8 to 10 minutes. Then return to the sauce to simmer. Repeat this process for about 50 minutes. The sauce will thicken. When the chicken is tender and pulls easily off of the bone, you have two options. You can dip one last time and serve for sloppy style wings, or serve right off the grill for dryer wings.


Seven Stages of Grief

Something I realized one day was that my diagnosis were a lot like my divorce. With my divorce I could escape my grief, but with my diagnosis’ I can’t. OK so they are a little different. One I don’t have to worry about any more and one I have to worry about the rest of my life. Maybe live with is a better way to say it. Either way the same principles apply. That is the magic secret that I figured out.

Have you ever heard of the seven stages of grief? While I was going through the feelings of my first diagnosis I realized at one point they were the same as the stages of divorce or any other major loss in your life. Now I do need to add one stage to the beginning that is not listed. I’m sure it is only something that those of us with invisible diseases feel. It was joy! Elation! I’m not crazy! The believe for once! OH SHIT! Why am I happy? I have autoimmune diseases! But, I’m not crazy! OK, just shush! I’m a bit crazy and many will say more than a bit. 🙂 It’s ok with me! So that was really my stage one. Let me know if you see how they have related to you. Each person is different but in a way I’m sure we all go through something like this. Some of us may never complete the steps, some may finish them, or you could be like me start, finish and start again when you have a new diagnosis. So on with the rest…

Seven Steps of Grief

Shock and Denial
In this stage, the person suffers from shock on knowing about the loss. Shock is a self-defense stage of the mind and the outcome of it, many times, is denial of the facts that have actually happened. A person in grief thinks that he is dreaming and he refuses to accept the grief causing situation. The time for which this stage lasts cannot be determined. Simple tasks and decisions cannot be carried out by a person in shock.

Pain and Guilt
At this stage, the grieving person realizes that the loss that has happened is true. This is the most chaotic and scary stage of grief. Many people succumb to alcohol and drugs at this stage. Intense feelings of guilt and compunction are experienced due to the wrong things done which led to this irreversible loss. Sometimes, in grief, people blame themselves and consider themselves responsible for the loss.

In this stage, the person may get angry due to the injustice that has happened to him or he may get angry over a person responsible for the loss in his life. Anger management is necessary at this stage of grief.

In this stage, person in grief gets frustrated and may start blaming others for the loss. Although this blame is not correct, he is not in a state to understand and accept the reality. The person starts bargaining for the loss and tries to find out ways in which he can revert the situation and compensate for what he has lost. This stage is called bargaining.

Depression and Sorrow
In this stage, the person accepts the loss but is unable to cope up with it. Depressed and demoralized, the person is in despair and behaves passively. He sees no remedy to the loss he suffered and is reluctant to behave in a normal way and thus goes into a state of depression.

Testing and Reconstruction
This is the testing stage in which the depressed person starts to indulge in other activities so as to escape the disturbing sorrow. In fact, this is the beginning of the next and last stage, i.e. acceptance of and coming to terms with the reality. It is also a stage of reconstruction as in this stage, he starts the process reconstruction of his life by searching for solutions and ways to come out of his grief.

This is the stage when the grieving person accepts the reality. Acceptance stage projects a ray of hope and the person starts believing in himself. Reality and facts of life are accepted and the person moves forward with this life. This stage can be noticed when the person starts behaving normally and his performance in the office is quite improved. The grieving person starts to mingle with friends and colleagues around him.
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Winter Sowing

I got this great idea from Kevin Lee Jacobs over at A Garden for the House. He starts his garden in the winter in milk jugs! I did mine on January 31st. Basically you take milk jugs cut them open and poke holes in them for drainage. You can get the tutorial over at his blog.

Here is a picture of mine. I bought some seeds and gathered some from my plants in the yard. Since I have never gathered seeds I wasn’t sure if I was actually getting the seeds so I ended up just crumbling the flower buds up in the dirt. 🙂 I know I have amazing talent!

Seeds I bought: Red Hot Poker (Tritoma), Blue Fescue, Echinacea

Seeds(?) I’m experimenting with from my garden: Purple Phlox, Black Eyed Susan, Marigold, and Mini Pink Roses (can you get seeds from the roses?)

Most of the seed packets said they take a few weeks to sprout, but since it is still winter I didn’t expect to see any for a bit. One of the flowers that I tried from buds were my marigolds. I had no idea if they would grow since I used my awesome skills of obtaining my seeds. To my surprise I went outside today and guess what I saw??? I have baby marigolds!!! I’m so excited! One less thing that I have to buy this year! 🙂

Here are my babies…

Aren’t they cute!

I am still collecting milk jugs since I have more flower buds to experiment with. If you have any send them my way!


Who else feels the cold seeping into your bones. My feet don’t want to bend. They try but it hurts to walk. Not to mention my knees and hips!!! Blah!!! Cold weather sucks!