I am a mother of a 16 year old boy, 19 year old daughter, 8 cats and 11 fish. I am a wife to a man who is willing to put up with me, I live life the best that I can and deal with what it dishes out in my own special way. I have Sjogren’s Syndrome and depression (plus other crap), love to crochet and garden, spend as much time outdoors as possible, and a little bit of everything in between… I enjoy pretty much anything that is new but I’m far from being an expert on anything!
A few years ago my life changed yet again. I went through a divorce and married the man of my dreams. Funny thing is, it all started with a blog. Before my separation I started a blog about my life and concerns with my marriage. I blogged religiously. There wasn’t a day that went by without a new post or several. A few months after I started, my marriage did end. We separated and went our own ways. While blogging I met many wonderful people online. Many who I still talk to today and one that I married.
The first time I saw his blog I felt a strange connection to him. We were both going through similar things so I just wrote it off to that. We commented on each others blogs for a few years and that was it. One day I decided to add one of those chat things on my blog and he decided to chat with me. From there it led to the phone and eventually we met in person. By the time we met in person I already knew he was the one that I was meant to be with.
A few months later I moved to Florida. My son and I were going to live there until Stephan retired from the Air Force. I was supposed to be there a year and a half. I moved there on a Friday. I was excited to start the next phase of my life. It was great! We were three blocks from the beach and starting a new family.
Then Tuesday rolled around… my new husband to be came home with orders to go to Turkey for a year! I ended up living in Florida for three months and moving back to Georgia. We got married on November 25, 2009 and he left for Turkey on November 26, 2009. For the next year we were back to our internet relationship. Only this time instead of a state away we were half a world apart! His daughter moved in with her mom for the year that he was gone and my son and I lived in an apartment in GA.
During that year my health problems were getting worse. I finally went to a Rhuematologist and after a few tests and what not I was diagnosed with Sjogren’s Syndrome. It can take many years to be diagnosed so I was pretty lucky that everything lined up just right. I’ve had symptoms for years, since my teens. I had never thought much of it. It was normal for me. At the time I would have flares, but they would only last for a few weeks or so. I mainly had stomach problems, fatigue, dry eyes, dry mouth, and brain fog. Things have changed a lot since then!
Before Stephan’s year was up in Turkey I got to go and visit for a few weeks. We made that time our honeymoon time! We had a great time. Turkey is beautiful. If you ever get the chance to go then go! There is so much to see. We also took a short trip over to Chios, Greece. We rented a motorcycle and rode around the island for a few days. It was amazing and just so free feeling. We didn’t make reservations we just went and stopped where and when we wanted to.
Stephan finally got to move back to the states and ended up in Alabama. He was four hours away this time. We decide that I would stay in GA since he would be there for less than a year. The time he would be there was also split between two school years. I decided to just stay here and keep my son in school here. His daughter wanted to move back in with him, so she moved from her mom’s to Stephan’s in AL. We all saw each other on the weekends during that time.
Again it was getting close for his retirement. He was figuring out the paperwork and what needed to be done. He was waiting for his Top Secret Clearance to be renewed and then he was going to drop his paperwork for retirement. Well… that didn’t happen. The Air Force with their super spy network found out and sabotaged our plans yet again! This time he got orders to go to Kosovo for six months. We had just bought a house in preparation for our family all being together. This time his daughter decided to live with me, since she would end up in this school in six months. She didn’t want to have to change schools yet again.
While Stephan was gone I lost my job. This gave me time to do a lot of the improvements on our house before he came home. This time before he came home he had all of his retirement in place. We weren’t going to take the chance of him being sent off again! He got back to the states in May 2010. He had a little more than a month in AL before he could start his terminal leave. In July of 2010, a little more than 2 1/2 years after we got married, we FINALLY got to live together! For the first time in our married life we were living under the same roof!!!
He officially retired from the United States Air Force on September 1, 2010. Due to the job market it took a while for him to get a job. It was not easy during that time. Money was really tight. After nine months he found a job and has been there since.
At that time I was in pain most of the time and going to so many doctors that working, taking care of a house and a family seemed impossible. When I was working I couldn’t keep up. There were so many days that I came home and fell asleep and didn’t wake up until the morning. I didn’t have the energy to do it all. My memory was getting worse and there were many times that I could not remember how to do parts of my job.
My depression and anxiety was getting bad. I have clinical depression so I have been on medication most of my life. I started in my early twenties. I didn’t realize it how bad it was getting until it was too late. It tends to sneak up on you. I ended up in a mental hospital for a little bit but it really helped me turn around and get back on track.
After trying for a few years I was able to get Disability. Not working has made life easier. I still have issues but not as bad since I’m not pushing myself to do everything. Well, that’s the low down on the past few years, well eight years.
I will talk about my medical issues on this blog. It isn’t for sympathy it’s to let others that have the same or similar issues know that they are not alone and to educate those of you that just don’t have a clue as to what it is like for us. I’d also like to take a stab at educating those that think we are faking it and that it is all in our head. 🙂
I do my best to see the positive in everything no matter how bad it is. I use jokes to get through everything. I am not good when it comes to filters on my mouth or my hands so if you think you might be offended when I talk about the loony bin or any other crazy ass shit I say you might not want to visit here often. I can’t change what my life is. I can only try to make it better and not give up on the things that I love. This will pretty much be a blog of my learning experiences whether new or old. Come along for the ride or jump off while we are moving cause I’m not stopping!